In the last two weeks we looked at how the human brain is divided into the logical part of the brain (the frontal cortex) and the emotional part of the brain (limbic system and amygdala). We touched on how the emotional part of the brain doesn’t use words or language – which is why adverts often use very few words to sell even expensive items like cars.
This week we’ll develop that principle by looking at emotions, and emotional resilience.
The logical part of the brain is undeveloped during childhood. Parents and carers can help a child to learn how to manage even strong emotions like fear or anger by teaching them words to describe their emotions. As a child learns more and more words to describe emotions, it develops the logical part of the child’s brain, which empowers the child to recognise and manage their own emotions.
Hold up a copy of the One to One Time Diary which you handed out last week.
Ask:
· did anyone have any unexpected results after last week? This can be anything, not just One to One Time
· does anyone have anything to share specifically about One to One Time?
· Do any of the parents have any questions about the homework or about anything else about last week?
You now give a brief presentation about emotions.
Assign the parents into pairs and ask them to turn to the Emotions Exercise in their Parenting Workbooks. Remind the parents that there are likely to be different parenting styles and to support each other and to suggest ideas based on what they are learning in the course.
In their pairs, ask them to spend ten minutes to:
1. write down a strong emotion that their child(ren) experience(s)
2. discuss together how they could handle the situation, using the Emotions “Focus, Guidance and Top Tips” given in their workbooks
After ten minutes ask the parents to spend another five minutes on what they could do or say after the child has calmed down to help them learn how to manage their emotions.
Bring the pairs back into the group as a whole and ask them:
· Did anyone deal with anger? Anxiety? Sibling rivalry? Any other strong emotions?
· What were some of the strategies the parents came up with to handle these emotions while the child was still experiencing them? These strategies are likely to differ according to age and perhaps other factors, and parents might well get great ideas from other parents!
· Did anyone have any ideas for what to do once the situation had calmed down to help their child learn how to manage their own emotions?
Hand out copies of the One to One Time diary, remind them how to use it and ask them to fill it in over the week for discussion next week.